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Wednesday, August 29, 2012

What Are Words

I was talking with someone today about plastic relationships. So many people think that with one rough patch, one might as well toss their guy/girl since they've obviously fallen out of love and aren't happy. Things aren't working? Don't let the door hit you in the rear. Hit the road, Jack. These boots were made for walking. Take your things and go.
I was inspired to dig out one of my favorite videos from YouTube by Chris Medina called "What are Words". (I'd have had it on here but I can't get it to embed right, and frankly I don't want to worry about copyright laws. Please, go and watch that video when you finish here.) 

The story is breathtaking, my friend. I love how Chris stays with his sweetheart after she's been in her car accident and isn't the same girl he first met. It made me want to send him a dozen chocolates and my heartfelt appreciation in proxy for all those girls and women everywhere who have been dumped for stupid, spurious reasons.
 Thank you, Chris Medina!
We can't just promise to love someone for the rest of our lives (or beyond in my case) and then bail when the going gets rough. No. What you do is FIX IT. You make it right. You learn to batter out a lasting peace in which you both make compromises and stand with each other against all odds. You cleave to each other, not your mommy, not your children, not your buddies, not your secretary or someone else. You made promises to your spouse. You gave your word. That's what it means to me. I wish it was a universal sentiment.

I'm not saying you shouldn't love your children. Far from it. But the best present you could give your kids is to love their parent. That means you don't let things, or work, or play, or misunderstandings come between you. You carve out time to talk to each other. You date your spouse. You make that person feel as if they are the most important person on the planet to you. Yeah. That's how it should be. If you're going to get married, do it RIGHT.


3 comments:

  1. Nice. I love that song. Makes me teary.

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  2. Love this; I totally agree; except that when a relationship is very first building... in the opening stage, that's when I do most of my very best "doesn't fit, nvm" part, once I'm in though, I'm in.

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